Hawking Identifies Empathy as Key to Civilization's Survival

See this AOL feature on Stephen Hawking's views about the importance of empathy as an antidote to aggression and a key to civilization's survival. Clearly, Hawking's brilliance extends beyond "hard science". Thanks to Vaughn Keller for sharing this piece on Facebook.

Top 10 Ways to Be More Empowered: New Post in MPNForum, April, 2012

My latest column in the April, 2012 issue of MPN Forum lists my top 10 strategies for empowerment. As I approach 60, I plan to employ these strategies to help me to stay well and manage my health conditions. I hope you will find them useful as well.

See Top 10 Ways to Be More Empowered

Motivating Yourself: A New Empowered Patient Column in the March MPN Forum

My latest post in The Empowered Patient column in the March, 2012 issue of MPN Forum features a strategy to help you break through the ambivalence that often keeps people for making important life changes.

So, if you are considering change, but have been unable to take action, it may be useful to ask yourself a series of questions that spur you to reflect upon about the value, importance and meaning of making the change. See below for some questions to help you to motivate yourself to take action. Reflect on  your answers and consider writing down your responses to the 3 questions that have the most meaning to you.

See the MPN Forum column (http://mpnforum.com/the-empowered-patient-march/ ) for more guidance about how to use these quesions to help move yourself towards action.

Questions for Motivating Yourself 

• What do I want to change?
• What reasons do I have for changing? (focus on your reasons, rather than somebody else's reasons)
• What is the most important reason for changing?
• What makes it so important?
• If I were able to change, what benefits would I experience?
• What is the most important benefit?
• Who else might benefit from my change?
• How would people who care about me feel about my change? (picture the scene)
• How would I feel about myself if I was able to change? (try to imagine actually experiencing the feeling)
• What small steps can I take to get started on the road to change? (consider the really really small steps that you know you to successfully take)
• Who can help me get started?
• How can I bring my talents and skills and experience to the change process?

New Column in MPN Forum

I have published a revised version of my "Being Heard" blog post in the August issue of MPN Forum. Click on the title to get to the column and the newsletter.

Michael

Being Heard

The following post was originally posted to the MPD Chat Listserve on July 7, 2011 as the 3rd installment of the collumn: Communicating and Connecting: Getting What You Need From Your Health Care Team

Being Heard – Number 3

In my last column, published on MPDchat on June 23, 2011, I offered some suggestions for questions that you might ask your docs and health care team members so you have the information you need to fully participate in health care decisions. This column offers some suggestions when your clinician is not responsive to our needs.

I know some docs respond with impatience or get annoyed when we tell them we have questions or that we need to engage in a discussion about our condition or treatment options. Some clinicians get defensive and feel threatened if we bring information or research findings from online sources, such as the MPDchat listserve or MPD Forum. Many health care professionals may be uncomfortable if we know something that they don’t. However, these are not excuses for being short or dismissive. It is my view that physicians should take whatever time is necessary to address our questions and concerns, or perhaps set up a follow-up to allow for a longer discussion. At a minimum, they should refer us to someone in their practice or clinic who has the time to respond to our needs.

Having said that, I know it may be hard to be assertive and speak up and ask for what we need. Even though I am a physician myself, I take time to prepare for my medical appointments even though I have a very responsive and personable oncologist.

So, here are some suggestions for how to help your doctors engage respond to your questions, concerns, or needs:

• Prepare for the visit by writing down your specific concerns and questions. Prioritize them so you can be sure to ask the most important one or two.

• Ask permission to ask questions or to share concerns or information. At some point early on in the visit, say: "Doctor....I have some concerns (or questions) that I would like to share with you about the treatment you have recommended (or we have planned). Would it be ok if I shared them with you? Most docs will say yes...and then you can ask questions and share your concerns [see suggestion below]. If he/she says no....you might have to say, "I don't feel comfortable moving forward with the plan while I have unaddressed concerns". Hopefully, this will trigger a response. If not, you might have to ask "Who else in the practice/clinic can address my concerns?"

• Share your discomfort/worry/concerns: "Doctor, I need to tell you that I am worried about xxxx and xxxx." If they change the subject or give an inadequate response, give the doc a second chance and repeat the statement. If you get a defensive response, you might say, "I know there is no way to eliminate all the worry...however, I'd appreciate knowing your ideas for helping me get through this". Finally you might ask, "What would you suggest I do to address my remaining concerns?" Hopefully, they will respond with something thoughtful, offer a referral or second opinion, or at least offer increased monitoring or ways to check up on you.


• For those docs who jump right in as soon as they walk in the exam room and start their evaluation and exam, you might need to prepare a way to share your agenda at the very beginning of the visit, for example, "Hi….before we get started today, would it be ok if I told you what was important for me to accomplish today?

• If you have a sense that it is time pressure that is getting in the way, you might say, “I know you are pressed for time, so I thought you might want to know what I am most concerned about…(wait for response); or:” I really value the time we have together to review the management of my condition. So, before you tell me what you would like to get done today, I’d like to tell you what I need. Is that ok?”

• Let your team know that you have been doing some reading or checking online, and share the source of the information. (e.g., moderated online support group; medical journal article, medical news service, national cancer institute site, etc.). Bring a copy of the article or reference with you. Again, ask permission to share it with your doctor. ("I found some useful information that I would like to share with you from[mention source]. Are you willing to review it and give me your opinion?" Again, if they say no, share your concern about this and ask whether someone else inside or outside the practice would review the material you have brought.

• Ask for increased monitoring and follow-up. If you have any remaining concerns or worries, ask for ways you might get in touch with your treatment team to get help for any problems that arise and make sure you have a follow-up appointment before you leave. You can ask, "Who should I connect with if I have a problem or question? What is the best way to get through?"

I hope these suggestions are helpful for helping you have more productive conversations with you health care professionals. As always, I am interested in your ideas and experience. Let us know what works for you.

Best wishes,

Michael

Questions are the Answer

I have posted the second installment of my column on the MPD Chat listserve below. Though this column is written for members of the myeloproliferative disorders community, my suggestions apply across all conditions. A previoius post on this blog contains similarPlease leave a comment or offer your ideas for questions that patients might ask to enhance their participation in care.

June 23, 2011 – Number 2

The National Patient Safety Foundation's Ask Me 3 campaign (see: http://www.npsf.org/askme3/) encourages patients to ask 3 questions of their health card team to increase their understanding of their health conditions and what to do about them. The 3 questions are:

1. What is my main problem?
2. What do I need to do?
3. Why is it important for me to do this?

Though these questions are good ones, I view the The Ask Me 3 questions as a minimalist approach for promoting clinician-patient communication, patient understanding and enhanced patient capacity to manage their conditions. These questions will help you get your clinicians' view of what you need to know, including their impression of what ails you (e.g., a diagnosis) and the options for managing your condition. Hopefully, if you ask the second question, you will learn not just about treatments, but also self-management options (i.e., what you can do to manage your condition). These questions hopefully will lead to a discussion and not just a lecture.

However, many clinicians do not have the inclination or skill to respond to these basic questions well. So, you may want to bring some additional questions. Here are a few others you might want to consider asking:

• "What else might be going on to explain my symptoms, examination and test results?" Ask "what else?" at least twice. Dr. Jerome Groopman, the noted oncologist and writer thinks "what else?" is one of THE most important questions you can ask. Asking "what else" actually helps clinicians to reflect and consider possibilities they might have prematurely rejected in their efforts to "make" a diagnoses.
• "What aspects of my presentation are not well explained by your diagnosis?" "Presentation"" is a word that clinicians use to convey the combination of symptoms, physical examination findings, and lab tests. They will be impressed if you use this word! Again, you are helping them to reflect and consider what doesn't fit their conceptualization.
• "How sure are you that this is my main problem?"
• "What tests would help you to be more sure?" For those of us with MPNs, you can get more specific and ask about JAK2 testing, bone marrow biopsies, imaging tests, etc.
• "How useful would it be to see another doctor who has more experience treating patient with my condition?" This is especially important question for us, since MPNs are relatively uncommon and only those who treat many MPN patients are aware of new and emerging treatments.
• "What are other treatment options?" This is similar to the "what else could it be?" question in helping the clinician expand his/her thinking about possible treatments.
• "What are the pros and cons of the treatment options?" Many clinicians minimize the down side - but it is important that you make fully informed choices that include an understanding of the risks and benefits.
• "What things can I do, (besides taking medication or undergoing other treatments) that will help me to manage my condition and have the best chance of maintaining my function?" Hopefully, this will lead to a discussion of strategies that may enhance your capacity to monitor you condition, maximize your well-being and function (e.g. eating well, being physically active, paciing oneself, etc.)
  

I realize that it may be challenging to ask ALL of these questions in a single visit...and some clinicians my bristle or balk if you pull out a list or ask too many questions. That kind of reaction is regrettable. After all, this is your life, your health, your condition! The doc may be the expert on the condition and treatment, but you are the expert about you!. Clinicians have the knowledge about what to prescribe. Yet, to effectively manage a condition, especially a MPN, you need to learn how to monitor, manage, cope and adapt.

I hope you will share your own favorite questions here....

Asking is the first step. As the US Agency for Healthcare Research and Qualtiy has said in their ads, "Questions are the Answer!" see: http://www.ahrq.gov/questionsaretheanswer/

Next column, I'll discuss what patients and caregivers can do if their clinician is reluctant to answer questions or hesitant to consider alternative diagnoses, treatments, referrals or self-management education.

Best wishes,
Michael