Monday, April 19, 2010

More suggestions for communicating with clinicians

See below for a post I made several months ago on the MPD-Chat listserve in response to posts by members describing serious communication barriers with their docs and other members of the health care team. (The link to MPD chat can be found in the link section of this blog).

I know some docs respond with impatience and even disdain when we tell them
we have access to sources of information online. Some get defensive and feel
threatened when we know something they do not. These are not acceptable
responses, in my opinion.

Having said that, it may be hard for any patient to be assertive and speak up. And it may be harder to leave or find another doctor, though this is certainly preferable to having a doc who puts roadblocks in the way of providing, or at least considering, the latest and most effective treatments.

So, here are some ideas for how to let your docs know you have concerns, and some information to share with them:

  • Prepare for the visit by writing down your specific concerns and questions. Prioritize them so you can be sure to ask the most important one or two.
  • Ask permission to ask questions, and share concerns and/or information: At some point early on in the visit, say: "Doctor....I have some concerns (or questions) that I would like to share with you about the treatment you have recommended (or we have planned). Would it be ok if I shared them with you? (Most docs will say yes...and then you can ask questions and share your concerns [see next suggestion below]. If he/she says might have to say, "I don't feel comfortable moving forward with xxxx while I have unaddressed concerns". Hopefully, this will trigger a response. If
    not, you might have to ask "Who else in the practice/clinic can address my
  • Share your discomfort/worry/concerns: "Doctor, I need to tell you
    I am worried about xxxx and xxxx." If they change the subject or give an
    inadequate response, give the doc a second chance and repeat the statement. If
    you get a defensive response, you might say, "I know there is no way to
    eliminate all the worry...however, I'd appreciate knowing your ideas for helping
    me get through this". Finally you might ask, "What would you suggest I do to
    address my remaining concerns?" Hopefully, they will respond with something
    thoughtful, offer a referral or second opinion, or at least offer increased
    monitoring or ways to check up on you.
  • Let your team know that you have been doing some reading or checking online, and share the source of the information. (e.g., moderated online support group; medical journal article, medical news service, national cancer institute site, etc.). Bring a copy of the article or reference with you. Again, ask permission to share it with your doctor. ("I found some useful information that I would like to share with you from[mention source]. Are you willing to review it and give me your opinion?" Again, if they say no, share your concern about this and ask whether someone else inside or outside the practice would review the material you have brought.
  • Ask for increased monitoring and follow-up. If you have any remaining concerns or worries, ask for ways you might get in touch with your treatment team to get help for any problems that arise and make sure you have a follow-up appointment before you leave. You can ask, "Who should I connect with if I have a problem or question? What is the best way to get through?"

I hope this is helpful.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Ask Me First!

Here is the document that I referred to in the previous blog post. This was originally developed for a project, New Health Partnerships (see link section of this blog), that helped health care teams from forward thinking organizations to enhance the quality of the care they provided to patients.

Patients Activating Doctors – Ask Me First!

After practicing agenda setting with the patient and family team members of the improvement team, the next step is encouraging and educating the patients in your practice to participate with you in real clinical visits.

It may be helpful to encourage patients and families to use specific language to prompt clinicians to “Ask Me First!” during actual visits with trained or even untrained clinicians. For example, a patient might say one of following statements/questions at the beginning of a planned care or follow-up visit for a long term condition to prompt the clinician to “Ask Me First”:

• Hi….before we get started today, would it be ok if I told you what was important for me to accomplish today?
• I know you are pressed for time…so...I thought you might want to know what I am most concerned about…(wait for response)
• I really value the time we have together to review the management of my condition. So, before you tell me what you would like to get done today, I’d like to tell you what I need. Is that ok?
• Before we get started...I would like to tell you some of the things I have been doing to manage my condition. I’d love to get some feedback.
• I know it is hard for many doctors to know the best way to ask about the concerns or troubles that their patients have been having. Would you like to know about the difficulties I have been having taking my medication (or following through with treatments…etc)?

Patients and family members may benefit from having information and tools to help them prepare for a visit by thinking about their needs, concerns and questions before the visit and writing them down in a list to help them to remember to share them during the visit. Some practices have found it helpful to create tools and informational materials to prompt patients to participate in setting the agenda. Attached are two examples:

Patient and family advisors from the MCG Health System in Augusta, GA developed the “Doc Talk Card,” a simple form to help patients and their families organize their thoughts and information in preparation for a healthcare visit. The forms are printed into notepads and are available in the reception area of ambulatory clinics.

The resource, “What You Can Do to Prepare for Your Doctor’s Visit,” was developed by the Partnership for Healthcare Excellence, a statewide initiative in Massachusetts to encourage consumers to get active in their health care. The fact sheet can be downloaded from their website at

Your team can develop your own materials and strategies. Patient and family members on the improvement team can actively encourage other patients and families to prepare for a visit and prompt clinicians to “Ask Me First.” Ideas include:

• Creating a form for patients or families to fill out before their visit.
• Creating a poster that can be displayed in the clinic.
• Developing a brochure to be made available in the reception area/exam rooms.
• Writing an article for a clinic newsletter.
• Creating a short video that shows a clinician and a patient/family setting an agenda at the beginning of a visit.
• Teaching other patients/family members during group visits or peer support or education classes.

Helping your health care team respond to your needs

It has been a long while since I posted here. However, I recently was inspired by a conversation with a colleague and friend, Sue Woods, to start posting again.

So, here is a post I made today to the MPD-Net listserve regarding how patients might engage health care providers to be more patient-centered, responsive and active. I will also add the document I referred to in the post to the blog site.

Here is the post I responded to:

Hello, I know there are some of us that deal with Dr.'s that don't seem to show much care. But after 3 yrs of me having to be the medical professional, it's getting old! Is there any suggestions, short of changing Doc's, that would help with getting the Onc/Hem to show some care and interest? Maybe I'm wrong, but when tests are done, shouldn't it be normal for the Dr to call and explain the results? I have to leave messages for the Dr's nurse, and hope someone will call me and explain things? I'm the one who gets the result copies and then have to research the medical info on the web, as no one ever calls me to explain them? The only time I've had any compassion and care shown is when I went to see Dr.Cxxxxxxx in xxxxx! I apologise for the rant, but these doctors really need to do some changing. Pxxxxxxx, Oregon

Here is my response:


I am saddened, but not surprised to learn of your frustration. As a physician educator, I have spent my career trying to change the culture of medical care to be more patient-centered. Though I would say that many docs and clinical team members truly want to meet patient needs, many barriers remain, including time...but that is no excuse for not meeting patient needs for information, results...and most importantly, compassion!

As I have mentioned in previous posts here, I have found a couple of wonderful organizations and programs that are striving to enhance patients' capacity to manage their health conditions, as well as their engagement in the process of improving care. See the websites for the Institute for Family Centered Care ( and New Health Partnerships ( I have had the pleasure of working closely with both of these organizations and can vouch for their value to patients, clinicians and health care systems. You will find lots of good resources there.

Pxxxxx, separately, I am sending you a document that I created for a project I was working on that provides some guidance for helping patients get more out of their visit with their doc. It also has links to other resources. I know that we can't include attachements in e-mail to the list, so If anyone else wants a copy, e-mail me at
I hope these are helpful.

Pxxxxxx, if you would like specific guidance and/or coaching please also feel free to contact me directly.